Sex Toys, & Personal Lubricants

This is a complicated and diverse topic. We will try to explain it as best we can within the confines of a single article. There are plenty of sex toys for both men and women. They have a numerous amount of uses. They can be used to increase masturbation pleasure, train yourself for more stamina, or heighten sex. When used in conjunction with a good lubricant you can be sure to have an explosive orgasm.

Sex Toys

There are so many different toys out there from dildos, to butt plugs and even fleshlights or vaginal sleeves.

Dildo

The dildo has been around for thousands of years. They’ve been dated back to pre-BC times. It is the quintessential thing we think of when we consider sex toys. They are typically a phallic shaped object which is used to penetrate the vagina or anus. Used by both men and women for masturbation and sex. They come in all types of sizes from very small to very, very large. Most people opt for a small version during initial experimentation. Over time you may add greater sizes and even vibrators to the mix.

Fleshlights

The best fleshlight will give men the opportunity to get themselves off like never before. They look similar to a vagina and are used by inserting your penis in them over and over. They come in a variety of different looks from a woman’s mouth, anus, or vagina. You can even get a larger version which has an entire woman’s bottom.

They also come in a variety of different texture sleeves. From silky smooth, extra-tight, and even crazy textures that will drive your penis wild. You will have amazing orgasms over and over again. To be perfectly honest sometimes they can feel even better than a vagina. Furthermore you can get a stamina training unit or STU for short to help you train your endurance and stamina. Allowing you to last longer in bed. There also great for travel when you’re on the road and need to get yourself off. If masturbation is normally a 1/10 experience and sex is 10/10 then fleshlights are a solid 8/10. Do yourself a favor and get one. Even if your a woman and considering purchasing one for your man. It’s well worth it as you can get them off easier.

Personal Lubricants

Personal lubricants have many uses. They can aid in masturbation and with using toys such as dildos and fleshlights and vagina sleeves. When looking for a good lube be it for anal or your toys you want something either silicone or water based. They are perfectly skin and toy safe, inexpensive, and long lasting. Water based has a great and light texture. Silicone based is more thick giving it more glide but is not great for oral.

Staying Safe

One of the unfortunate outcomes of this movement is an increased rate in the sexual assault of young people. Mostly young women. You can often see in the news people in authority blaming these abused for what they wear or how they look. Blaming the abused is never okay and only helps the abuser continue on their path of devastation. When someone you know has been a victim of sexual abuse you should do your best to comfort them and let them know that they are safe. Ask them if they need anything or would like to take it to the police. You should not force them to go the police however. This could cause a complete mental break in someone who has just went through trauma. On the flip side however, time is limited after the abuse for how long evidence can be collected. If they do want to speak with the police they should do so sooner rather than later.

While victim blaming is completely wrong, there is some small amount of truths in what they are saying. I wished we lived in a world where anyone could walk down the street at night and be safe, unfortunately we do not. You have to take care of and protect yourself. There are a few simple tips you can follow that will help to minimize the odds of something terrible happening.

  1. Go with friends or family. If you’re with a group of people you won’t be much of a target for potential abusers. If you cannot go with other people you need to be extra alert and vigilant. Never leave your cup and if you start to feel strange call someone immediately. Before you go make sure you let some friends or family members know where you are and when to expect you back. This will ease their minds as well as your own.
  2. Avoid places where you don’t know anyone. If you’re the only person without any connections at the party you’re more likely to be victimized. Abusers look for people who seem out of place who can be easily isolated.
  3. Know your limits of drinking. One of the worst things you can do is drink yourself to a state of not being able to properly function or communicate. If this does happen, and you being to feel uncomfortable, call a friend or cab to come pick you up.

Over time the rate of sexual abusers has gone down. It will continue to go down as we advance as a society. However, we still aren’t there yet so please take care of yourselves and family members/friends. Remember, you’re still going out to have fun. Just be cautious and use common sense when going out.

Condoms

A condom is a penis shaped device used to protect the users from pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases. Those who properly use condoms see a roughly 2% rate of pregnancy. This is considerably lower than those who do not use condoms. Latex is the most common type of condom. They do however have different types if you’re allergic to latex.

They should be used always during random encounters. If you both know each other well then you could consider using other types of protection. They a great when used in combination with other preventative products.

Sex Positivity

Sex positivity is a recent social movement which promotes the freedom and education of sexuality. It sets very few limits on sex. These limits include the importance of safe sex and of course consent. The complete definition derived from the official website is as follows, “an attitude towards human sexuality that regards all consensual sexual activities as fundamentally healthy and pleasurable, encouraging sexual pleasure and experimentation. The sex-positive movement is a social and philosophical movement that advocates these attitudes. The sex-positive movement advocates sex education and safer sex as part of its campaign.”

More and more people are embracing the sex positivity movement. This is mostly a great thing. We as a species need to embrace sex and relationships. Instead we hide them away, lock them in a little closet and throw away the key.

It’s important young adults and parents understand this movement, why it’s happening, and how to respond to it.

Parents, you will never be able to control your children. Even trying so is a futile effort which will only end in a shattered relationship. Even if you disagree with the idea of free love you cannot ignore it.

Let’s debunk some common myths and misconceptions about this movement.

  • Sex positivity is about women being promiscuous. – This is completely false and the opposite of what the movement is trying to accomplish. We are trying to create a world where people can talk about and enjoy sexual activities without fear of judgement or persecution. While many strides have been taken over the years there is still much to do.
  • Sex positivity is about young people having unprotected and consequence free sex. – We see comments like this all the time. It couldn’t be further from the truth. Having safe sex and understanding the consequences are the core aspects of the movement.

If you’ve taken anything away from this article it should be that embracing sexuality is important. Hate only makes a worse world for everyone. You may not agree with everyone or what they do, and that is your right. However, you should learn about the other side and consider your words and actions.

Biological Changes – Hormones & Sex Organs

Puberty is scary word. It is often misunderstood or glanced over during school. To put it simply, it’s the age in which your body begins to produce certain hormones that will change the human body. It begins to transition from children to men and women. This normally occurs between the ages between 12 and 14. However, it’s not unusual for it to begin earlier or later.

It all starts when your brain sends a signal to begin production of a special hormone. This hormone is named gonadotropin-releasing hormone or GnRH for short.

It then proceeds to go to work on all different types of aspects of the male and female body. If you’d like to learn more in-depth about the process we suggest checking here.